Hey there lovelies! Today's post is going to be kind of a brain dump, so if you don't want to hear it, don't say I didn't warn ya!
I make good money, at least by my standards I think I do. I went to school, graduated with my degree in mathematics, and now work as a Data Analyst for Staples. However, I epitomize that old adage 'the more you make, the more you spend'. Plus I only get paid once a month (GASP!). Once I get paid, I pay all of my bills, and rather than budget the remaining funds for gas, food, general expenditures, etc, and then put the rest in savings, I spend it. So when it comes to a week, sometimes two or so weeks before I get paid again, and I'm flat out broke. I have enough for gas and groceries -BARELY- and have to hope that nothing else arises. I confess, I have no savings or retirement plan. I know. It's horrible. Now that my husband and I have reconciled and he is moving into my condo with me and the kids, it should help with finances. We want to get back into a house; however, the whole no savings thing puts a big damper on that.
I've never been really good at admitting any faults of mine, not even to myself. I am a strong, stubborn Greek woman who is never wrong. At least that's what I've always told myself. I realized that maybe I have a problem with spending. And maybe I can be to blame for things, at least partly. (Hence the reconciliation with the hubs, but that is a story that won't be told here.) The even harder thing for me to do is to ask for help. I finally bit the bullet, let go of my pride, and went to the hubs last week and told him. He's put me on spending lockdown. My finances are now in his hands, until I'm out of debt and have a little savings. He *may* give me an allowance, he's not sure yet. At first I was upset, but now I really think that this is the best thing that's happened to me.
I have an armoire FULL of craft supplies. I need to get my DIY on! I have a walk in closet, 2 smaller armoires, and a large dresser FULL of clothes and shoes, the majority of which I do not wear. This period of lockdown will force me to become more creative with what I have. It will help me get rid of things that no longer fit or I just don't like anymore. Finally, I think it will help me appreciate what I have rather than wish for and covet what I don't. Ok, I still may wish for and covet alot of things. But maybe I'll get more inspiration to use what I've got instead of single-handedly jumpstarting the economy.
So, lucky ladies, you will see a lot more DIYs and refashions in the coming weeks/months. You'll see a lot of wardrobe challenges, challenging me to wear what I've got. Finally, you'll see my progress! I need to hold myself accountable, and I'm putting myself totally out there! I'll let you know how my debt reduction / savings increase is going :) I get paid this Friday, so that's when all that fun starts!
On another note, I saw this frame on A Diamond in the Stuff's blog, and not only loved it, buuuut I had all the supplies, including the same frame on hand! Follow her easy peasy directions, and for just a few dollars, you can have this too! I love it, and can't wait to put my kids' pic in there :)
What do you think of my jar of severed fingers? I bought 2 bags of the 'fingers' at the dollar store, and recycled a small glass jar. I'll have more Halloween decoration DIYs coming up, I'm a little obsessed with Halloween!!
xxxoooxoxo
Lia
This jar is GORGEOUS. I love Halloween, as I am sure that you know by now, so anything Halloween-y needs to be mine ASAP.
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Lia, I know the next few months are going to be difficult, but in the long run will be completely worth it. Since you are going through clothes you could always try to sell the ones that don't fit and I say sell the DIY items on that etsy shop you've always wanted to have. If you ever need to talk or feel like you are going to go off your path email me! I am here to support you. :)
ReplyDeleteI am SO PROUD of you! Since you are strong and stubborn I know that you are going to take this challenge and kick it's @$$! Just think of the future that you are building with man you love and for your precious babies! Your creativity is going to get you through! XOXO
ReplyDeleteI think it's very brave to to throw this out there...You've already taken the first step. You can do it lady!
ReplyDeleteSo brave of you to put everything out there, but you are definitely not the only one! All of your hard work will definitely pay off in the end. Plus, you are so creative all your DIY and refashions will be see fun to see!
ReplyDeleteomg I love the eye frame! so cute! I have a bag of googly eyes in my craft closet I keep staring at trying to think of a DIY to use them for!!
ReplyDeleteAdmitting your weakness is the first step to becoming stronger. You can do it!
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ReplyDeleteI admire your honesty in this post Lia!! I think we could all use to go on a shopping lockdown. Congrats on the reconciliation of your marriage! I can't wait to see what creativity is birthed from your lockdown darling.
ReplyDeleteYou can do it! Admitting it is the first step and having someone to help you and hold you accountable is even better! Way to channel your energy into some DIY posts! Can't wait to see you unleash Creative Lia in the next months!
ReplyDeleteGood, you've already take the first step! it's important! Take a look at my blog, and if you like it follow me, I’ll be waiting for you!
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You can do it! I'm currently starting a similar endeavor. I shop out of boredom, and at the end of the day I'm still bored and lonely and have no money! I'm cheering for you!
ReplyDeleteIt's gonna be hard, but you're gonna thank yourself for stopping the problem early. And when you're living on a budget and trying to make the most out of things, that's when you get the most creative- so looking forward to seeing some more of those DIYs! Love the frame!
ReplyDeleteCute! Good luck with the shopping ban, it's hard but worth while! Enjoy your new nail polish... it's so fabulous!!
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